The Bible has a high standard of marriage. It is under God’s authority and grace that a man and woman will leave their family to be united as one. The first marriage that took place is with Adam and Eve. In Genesis 2:18-25 it says:
“18 The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’ 19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. 25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.”
From reading this passage, it is very clear and evident that God designed and instituted marriage. God created marriage to meet the needs of a woman and a man as mentioned in the bible “it is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” God saw that Adam cannot be alone and needed human companionship, in which God created Eve. Since God instituted and designed marriage, He also knew the satisfaction that marriage brings forth. Marriage brings forth union and life partnership, but it is also a three way relationship between God, the husband, and the wife. As it states in Ecclesiastes “the cord of three strands is not easily broken”. Without God at the centre, a marriage cannot flourish into what God intended it to be, and will definitely break. Marriage exemplifies God’s covenant and promises in so many ways. Children are also the fruit of the union between a husband and wife. In Genesis 1:28 says “Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground.”
In today’s rapidly evolving world, the word “marriage” has taken a whole new meaning. Hollywood and the media paints a different picture of how a marriage should look, which has become acceptable and the norm in this society. This generation is very focused on the new concept of “love wins” or “all you need is love”. It explains that people should feel entitled to live in any form of union in the name of love. Some choose to adapt to the lifestyle of common law, children before marriage, same-sex marriage, and few other lifestyles that do not fit the design and plan that God intended marriage to be. Many choose to omit marriage, and choose other ways to indulge in a relationship. Marriage is specifically defined for the sole purpose of one man and one woman coming together in unity. Children before marriage, living together as boyfriend and girlfriend, or same -sex marriage is not considered the design that God created marriage to be.
Let’s stop for minute and remember that as Christians we are to love all people. We are not passing judgement on anyone. No matter what sin a person commits, every sin is the same in the eyes of the Lord. This entry is meant to encourage those of you who are Christians and may be struggling with homosexuality. As well as for those of you who may be lost with what the biblical standards are of what marriage is meant to be.
The bible clearly indicates in Mark 10:6-9 “But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and join to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Same-sex marriage was never and will never be in the institute of a Godly marriage. God clearly instructed marriage to be something beautiful and celebratory between a husband and wife. When God created Adam, He created Eve for the sole purpose that they will be compatible with each other. God did not create another Adam or another male as a suitable partner for Adam. When God created Adam and Eve, it was a perfect combination and partnership that God intended it to be. Out of the partnership comes intimacy, which includes sexual intimacy between a man and woman. Each opposite member of sex corresponds to the design of the bodies. Our anatomical structures were designed in such a way that intercourse between a man and woman would be pleasurable and not cause harm or injury. Also, through intimacy our offsprings are formed as God intended to be. If God intended the human race to be populated through homosexual acts, He would have created and designed the bodies to have both homosexual and heterosexual reproductive systems as a means of creating more offspring. But that was not His plan or intention. God established His Laws and decrees in Genesis, as it is between one man and one woman. God’s word cannot be twisted or broken when it comes to same-sex marriage, as the bible and His word stands firm that marriage is the institution between one man and one woman.
The truth is that God sees marriage or the union between two men or two women as immoral, unnatural, and a sin. But God shows His love and compassion to our brothers and sisters who are struggling with homosexuality, because He loves them. God loves us all and while we are still sinners, He came down in the form of a human and died for us. Don’t ever doubt how much He cares for you! But just because God loves us all, that doesn’t mean we should still continue sinning. We need to try to make an effort on a daily basis to rid ourselves of the very things that easily entangles us to sin.
If any of you readers are struggling with same sex gender attraction, we urge you to seek Jesus Christ. He is the only living God that can redeem you and give you a new purpose. Overcoming same sex attraction might be challenging for some of you, but God will not allow you to go through it alone. Through the sanctification and love of Jesus Christ you can be transformed and renewed. Just like all our other sins, it is important to overcome those fleshly desires and He will give the strength to do it. God has a purpose and a plan for your life as Jeremiah 29:11 states :
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
God desires to see his children grow and flourish in His ways and truth. God’s plan can give you a new identity in Him, if you trust and accept Him. If you have truly accepted Christ and want change, we urge you to reach out and be rooted at a good local church. Do not struggle on your own, rather seek out for help. If you require any help, support, prayer, or finding a church please email us at Iron.sharpenHers@gmail.com.
2 Corinthians 5:17 “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
It is also a Christian’s duty to respect and show love and mercy towards the homosexual community despite the differences of opinions. We can’t judge people just because they sin differently than us. When Jesus came to earth 2000 years ago, He was not among the leaders or the rulers. He was among the sinners, the tax collectors, and those who were despised by the society. Jesus ministered to these people and gave a new hope and future. So, if you know someone who is a homosexual, it is important to show love to them just as Christ would.
Here is a link full of testimonies on how ordinary people overcame same sex attraction. Please be blessed and make a decision today to accept Christ and live life to follow Him and His ways.