“From the start you were first
He loves you at your worst
He’ll do anything, a father
He shows you what love is
Saw your dreams before you did
He’ll give everything, like your Heavenly Father”
-Lyrics: Through the Eyes of my Father
A daughter always needs her father. Some of you may have earthly fathers, others may not, but everyone has a Heavenly Father who has called each of you by name.
Women are created in such a unique way. Sadly, without a strong father figure in their lives, women will often seek other ways to belong, to feel loved, and to feel protected. There are so many women who have faced abuse by men at least once in their life, whether it’s sexual, emotional, or physical. Without a father to help with the recovery process, women either despise men altogether or believe love is attained by doing ungodly things for them. Their understanding of receiving love and reciprocating it is now distorted.
Some of you may have even been abused by your own father, or felt neglected by him. You have most likely felt a lack in your life, and that may have caused you to view other men in the same light you view your father. To those of you who can identify with this, I want to say: forgive your dad. Without forgiveness, you can never be set free to live the life Christ has set before you. Without forgiveness, you will only look at men through a tainted/cracked lens, and what you see will be distorted. However, the problem does not lie with them, it actually lies in your vision.
In either case, it can be hard for a girl to grow up being a strong, bold and beautiful woman if all she felt was unprotected, unloved, neglected, mistreated or unimportant.
If you didn’t have a God-fearing and loving father growing up, or if you did not have a father at all, the Lord can heal all those wounds and remind you that He was with you during all those times of lack. After all, He is our Heavenly Father! He will embrace you and show you what the true love of a father is.
I grew up in a family that definitely had its ups and downs, but my father helped me overcome obstacles and taught me to never give up. Whether it was a quarrel with my siblings or something going on with school, I knew I had my daddy to turn to. If I did something terrible, he would discipline me, but I knew he would always forgive me!
The same way, we can cast our cares on the Lord (1 Peter 5:7) and He is quick to forgive us (1 John 1:9).
God knew his daughters needed a father (and mother) on earth. But He’s always here to fill the holes that our parents fail to fill.
Fathers are there to protect, love and discipline us.
A father that loves his family wants to support his family! (1 Thessalonians 2:9). He works hard and makes the necessary sacrifices so his children and wife are protected and are provided for.
A father that is a man of God, lives right, even behind closed doors (1 Thessalonians 2:10). It is so important that fathers set an example for their children and family. God gave men the authority to be the head of the household. This is a leadership role, and with this, comes many responsibilities. It is crucial that fathers live a life pleasing to God (Romans 12:1) and seek God first in all things (Matthew 6:33). When fathers lead a righteous path, their children and wife will (eventually) follow.
In some homes, husbands have lost their authority as the head of the household, and in every case, the home will fall apart if the man is not the head. Ladies, this is one of the reasons why it’s so important to marry a man that loves God. Families can only grow spiritually together when the head of the household is a man of God.
A father’s role is not just limited to how he treats his children, but also how he treats his wife. The word of God emphasizes the need for men to love their wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25).
Lastly, it is vital that a father speaks with words of encouragement. (1 Thessalonians 2:11-12).
Countless times, the word of God instructs fathers to use encouraging words with their children. Speaking words of life gives strength and hope, instead of resentment and bitterness (Colossians 3:21; Ephesians 6:4).
Being a spiritual father that represents our heavenly father is an essential role. In Luke 15:11-32; we read about the parable of the Lost Son, and we learn the unconditional love of a father. This parable illustrates the love of our Heavenly Father. Regardless of how much you may have failed as a daughter, the Lord is always waiting for you with arms wide open.
If your home is broken, I pray for the Heavenly Father to come restore and heal all that was lost. If your father is still unsaved, keep praying for his salvation, your prayers will not go in vain. If your father is not in your life, remember, you have a Perfect Father, who will never leave nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5b). It may be hard for you to comprehend what the love of our heavenly father is, specifically if you did not experience love from your own father. But just trust and know that His love is not conditional and it has no limits. You were on His mind when He laid down His life on the cross! Allow Him to be your father, and to fill that void in your life!