Now that I’ve gotten your undivided attention, let me just start off by saying that God, love and sex are all the intended components that make a marriage beautiful and purposeful. Knowing and understanding God’s intentions concerning any part of life means obtaining wholeness in that area; and I believe that nowhere is this more necessary than the sexual realm, where negative attitudes and perversions have been made allowed to destroy marriage relationships.
Make no mistake about it, God himself created sex, not man. What God designed, man has distorted. What God sought to protect, man has perverted. Let’s be frank, the only thing out there teaching us anything about “sex” is from propaganda in the form of posters and commercials; media such as movies, television, and even worse “reality” TV; and finally from ungodly or unqualified people of influence who have given us advice or shared their experiences. In all this, there isn’t any mention of what God has to say. This type of misinformation has only led to people being burnt out, stress out and essentially unable to fully connect with their spouse sexually. Well, I’m here to help you get a Godly, straight forward, no nonsense biblical perspective of sex.
Most Christian couples have not been taught what the Bible actually says about sex. Contrary to common belief, sex within marriage is not just to withhold you from committing sexual immorality because of your natural burning desires; or solely because you are ordered to be fruitful and populate the earth (can’t get anymore frigid than that….yikes). Take a deep breath, and hear me out; sex was intended for a married couple to explore, enjoy and connect with their mind, body and soul. God invented sex for our delight and it is His gift to us. Based on God’s wisdom, a father advises his son in Proverbs 5:18-19; he says “May your fountain (your body parts that produce life) be blessed, and may you rejoice (or ecstatically delight) in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love”. It may be surprising to see the Bible talk so openly, so joyously of sex in marriage. In this we see that the body is meant to be admired and enjoyed by your spouse. God presents His ideal plan for spouses when it stated in the bible that “they were both naked , the man and his wife, and were not ashamed” (Gen. 2:25). God desired for them to see each other as they were, with no disappointment, frustration, or inhibitions. The sexual relationship that God designed between a husband and wife was to bring blessings of companionship, intimacy, unity and delight- take note that this is some time before the command to bear children was given (Gen. 3:16). In fact, the sexual relationship in marriage receives such emphasis in scripture, that when it is well studied we see that it is not only meant to be a wonderful, continuing experience for a husband and wife, but it is also intended to reveal even more about God and His love for us. How? In Ephesians 5:31-32, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church”. This verse speaks to us about the greatest love story ever told- the proper expression, a lovingly executed and mutually satisfying sexual union is God’s way of showing us a great spiritual truth. Jesus Christ gave Himself for us and is intimately involved with and loves the church. We can safely now come to the conclusion that the sexual relationship between two growing Christians in the sanctity of marriage can be an intimate fellowship as well as a pleasurable experience.
There is so much more to be studied and understood about this gift that God has given to couples, who have committed themselves together in matrimony before Him. It’s about time we take hold of what God intended for sex and claim the blessing that is our God-given right. I’m talking about REAL sex education that God’s people desperately need to lead fulfilling lives as one flesh, to glorify Him. We only need but choose to enter His plan for marriage with a spiritual awareness. Sex is not only an expression of desire and passion, it is also a spiritual, unifying act that connects spouses in a way that is far deeper, and more meaningful than the world could ever teach. The gift of sexual union between a husband and wife should not be a mechanical, selfish need to be met; but an opportunity for all the desires, passion and love for your spouse to personify purely. It is a union of each other’s mind, body and spirit, which God has permitted for only both of you to experience together. Let us strive to go deeper in trying to understand exactly what God has in store for us when He gave us this gift. Sure, I get the cultural taboo’s and religious conservativeness that has given us a “fend for yourself” attitude concerning sex, but I assure you that it is our responsibility as a spouse or future spouse to prayerfully and mindfully seek to enter into Gods plan for all the phases of marriage. God can do amazing things in a marriage when it is committed to Him, with a husband and wife both possessing the attitudes and the information necessary for a joyous relationship. I pray that these words will open up your hearts and show you just what all God has in store for you and your God-ordained spouse or future spouse.